Thursday, April 4, 2013

What's bothering you, really?

Have you ever felt like there's something wrong, but you don't know exactly why?

For some reasons you just feel exhausted everyday, not physically, but more mentally. Sometimes you're just numb, hot-headed, or unsatisfied with everything.
The mood is really bothering you. You just wonder and wonder what's happening to you and why you just suddenly lose your spirit to do anything, even the activities you normally do. 
I have experienced it a few times, and until now I still wonder why it can happen at the most random times. But no, it doesn't stop there. As a normal human being that I am, I'm utterly curious about it (who isn't?) so I try to analyze it, at least by finding a solution each time I feel that way.

Just to remind you, in this post I'm not going to talk about how to solve what's bothering you (if you already know what it is). We're now talking about this weird feeling that gets you, making you feel uncomfortable with yourself, or with your activities, or even with your whole life. It can get into different kinds of level, but we're not going to get too deep on that today.

By now, I know this topic might seem to be getting too vague for you, so I'll just put it straight.
It turns out that the causes are not as BIG as you thought they are.

What I have found so far, is that there could be something wrong with your mind only, your physical condition only, or both of them.

What to do now?
Now let's explain it with points.

1. You just need a nice deep sleep
Don't laugh at me like I'm yo mama telling you to get enough sleep, but the amount of sleep that you have everyday really affects your mood, temper, spirit, or anything related to your states of mind. Do not underestimate the power of sleeping. When you only get 1-2 hours of sleep a day, you would probably find yourself yelling for something you usually wouldn't be so bothered about. Sleep well, and you'll get a fresh fresh mind.

2. Please motivate me
This sounds really cliche, but motivation is the very basic thing that keeps you going on with your life. Everyone wants to achieve a specific something, whether it's good grades, a scholarship, perfect partner, or even eternal life, something MUST drives you to do whatever you do. We can be lack of motivation and we don't even realize it. "What do I do now?" Read books. Watch things that inspire you,  it can be anything, really. To me, even videos about cute babies can do. You can also try to make this thing called "Motivation board" where you can put motivational quotes, your friends/ family photos, your goals, and anything which can boost your spirit. Just give it a try, and you'll see.

3. Treat yourself!
We all have those days when we don't even have time for ourselves. We have to do this and that, assignments, exams, work, or anything that keeps us busy. We start to care less about our health and we end up pushing ourselves too hard on everything because we want to get our works done. It's not bad at all to be so much goal-oriented, but working too hard can cause you more trouble. Stop for a while, and do yourself a favor. You can hang out with your friends, buy yourself something you want (e.g: chocolate is a great mood booster for me), or for a quick treat you can spend your time listening to your favourite songs. You're still a human being after all, not a robot.

4. See the core of the problems
You might be having a lot of things going on, and you don't know where to start solving your problems. We can have multiple problems at a time, so start finding the core of what's really bothering you. It's possible that you're actually really annoyed with a certain thing, but you also have a few things that are also bothering you, but not as much. In the end you just have no clue of why you're so bitter about everything. Know yourself and try to admit how you're actually feeling about the core problem, once you find it. Do not hold it or lie to yourself.

5. Go social
Sometimes the solution is just to socialize more and get together with some friends or people you love. Especially if you've been busy with things and you can't. Supports from your beloved ones are always precious and are very good for mood boosting. For a sanguine like me, this is one of the things that keeps me sane. I like to discuss and share my thoughts and problems with people I trust. Just so that I wouldn't explode by keeping it all to myself.

So the five points above can probably explain about why we can feel this "uneasy", "exhausted", or "bitter" feelings that we couldn't really understand before. In my opinion, the most important thing is to keep a balanced state of mind and health. With that, we'll do just fine.

Thoughts? leave your comments.

Live life to the fullest.


  1. 1,3, and 5 are how I usually keep my mind balanced. xD Although with 1, getting a little TOO much sleep can also cause an imbalance.. o-o
    So what's bothering me, really? Hmm.. I guess it's what I vented to you yesterday, although not so much today. And today there was a misunderstanding where apparently E and I thought each other was mad/upset when neither of us was. xD So that 'problem' was really, as you said, NOT as big as we thought it was, haha. x_x
    So Thoughts? I really like this post. xD Usually it takes me a while to find a solution to things that bother me, so this helped me pinpoint the exact solutions I've needed, or will need in the future,to fix any of that. Nice job with this one~ <3 Looking forward to future posts. :3

    1. Thanks for the comment S :D
      good thing both of you cleared it up. being open with each other is one of the most important things in a relationship, especially when you're in a long distance one. and don't forget to trust each other and not to doubt each other too easily. it might cause you a problem which shouldn't have been existed at the very first place. (alright i'm starting to sound like a love doctor here)
      as for the post, glad i could help <3 although i'm sure there are more causes and solutions that i might have missed here. speaking of general thoughts, not so specific ones ~

  2. I know that feeling, and unfortunately i feel it right now. For some moment in my life, I feel that uncomfortable feeling. And I definitely dunno why it can be happen to me. I dunno what I want to do, even the most bothering problem. I have so much problem, but I really feel like I don't care so much about that. But I don't know why I feel this feeling. Maybe it is sounds like a piece of cake but it really bothering me the most. what I can do if I dunno what the matter of me, what is the core of the problem? Fyuh~ after all... when I feel it, the end of solution is let it flow, and one door from God will open when the time is come.

    1. @Listi no worries, as long as you believe that every problem has its own solution, and that God is bigger than all of our problems, everything is going to be alright. Sometimes we just need to breathe more, feel more, so that we can think clearly and solve the problem :)


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